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Sibling groups in care…can you help children to stay together?

June 14, 2020 2:45 pm, written by .

In England alone, there are over 78,150 children in care which is an increase of 28% in the last decade. This has led to considerable demand for foster carers who can offer safe and loving homes long term to them. Sadly, many of these children belong to sibling groups…and they are desperate to be together....

In England alone, there are over 78,150 children in care which is an increase of 28% in the last decade. This has led to considerable demand for foster carers who can offer safe and loving homes long term to them. Sadly, many of these children belong to sibling groups…and they are desperate to be together. Can you foster siblings?

According to a recent BBC article, there are more than 1200 children in care who are not living with at least one of their siblings. They added that freedom of information requests sent to more than 200 local authorities revealed that more than half of sibling groups in care have been split up. Many of them will have brothers and sisters, but there is little data about the extent of sibling separation.

Furthermore, it states:

the law says brothers and sisters should be placed together if possible because it is in their best interests.”

Thousands of siblings split up in care system…https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-51095939

Many children taken into care, have often suffered trauma, abuse or bereavement, and they are vulnerable. Older siblings often are the silent parent to many children, and they play an essential role in the family dynamics by the sharing of experiences and the understanding of each other. Therefore, the grief a child can feel at the loss of this sibling who, often was the only one to show them, love, is now gone…now they have no-one, and they are vulnerable.

Helping children to be children…

Foster carers who care for siblings, often comment that it is easier for children to settle when they are together. Usually, children have designated roles with each other, and this brings comfort to the carer, and to each other. Foster carers who offer support to children as a family can ensure that all children have the chance to be children. They can take over the role of the parent that many children have to adopt, out of necessity, and give them the opportunity of each child having a happy childhood.

 

Keeping a sense of identity and belonging…

There is a considerable demand for foster carers to care for siblings because keeping them together is essential. Being together allows children to keep their own sense of identity and belonging, simply because they belong to each other. Many siblings feel the sense of loss of siblings more acutely than the loss of a parent, quite often, they have been their safe place, their comfort blanket. And this loss is the hardest one of all to heal.

Supporting each child’s individual needs is vital…

Foster carers need to have at least one spare bedroom and lots of time, patience and love to devote to the children, together as a family, and individually. Each fostered child has their own individual needs, and now more than ever, these need to be recognised and supported. Foster carers play an essential role in working with children and young people to make sure they get the care and support they need. This support ranges from attending school and health appointments to taking part in extracurricular activities, this is challenging with just one child. It’s even more challenging with sibling groups; however, the rewards are immense.

Sibling foster care
Keep siblings together

Fostering charities supporting you 24/7

Fostering siblings is challenging, and as a foster carer, you would need a reliable and supportive network of family and friends to help. It is also essential that the agency you choose can give you the highest level of support, and it is for this reason that we recruit with Not for Profit fostering charities. These charities offer the highest level of care 24/7 for you, your family and the children that you care for…to ensure that every child has the chances, choices and opportunities they can for a better future together.

Enquire today to find out more about sibling groups… Keeping sibling children in care together is a priority…Can you foster siblings? Email val@ververecruitment.org or call 07538134694 for an informal chat.